August 15, 2006
Fake (revised [for no reason])

someone posted a rather well exemplified discussion on pseudo-relationships.

her “pseudo” thesis did solicit a lot of smirks and nods from me, not to mention 10 fingers itching for the keyboard for a smartass-ish commentary.

the writer tried to establish this school of thought: a pseudo-relationship is not a valid relationship. a pseudo-relationship is the substitute for the real thing.

in her lengthy enumeration, she pointed out that the absence of and/or a deviation from one of the many socially-established elements of a relationship invalidates one. she calls them pseudo-relationships.

like that of mary’s… been keeping the same boyfriend for years but is in-love (and sleeping) with someone else. there’s john… a husband and father of four but lives in a makati flat with his boyfriend. or that of rachelle’s… former miss melbourne last seen dating her first runner-up.

i have nothing against the innocuous zeitgeist of “pseudo” things. but indulge me to wonder: are pseudo-relationships fill-in for the supposedly real ones(are they unreal? fake?) even if we throw ourself in this “pseudos” with conscious choices?

i am bryan anthony, 26 (a.turning 27 this September, b. whose personal life has nothing to do with this particular blog, c. just violently reacting, d. might masturbate later). tell me about life.

15 August 2006
posted by Bryan Anthony the First at 8/15/2006 |



32 Comments:

At 6:52 PM, Anonymous lojik said........
psuedo-relationshiP? i think those people whose into it are those who are afraid for the truth.

they're looking for something that they feel is missing within them. but they don't wanna fix things up and just leave it as it is and stick to that situation since it's causing them just a little trouble. they are sometimes afraid with responsibility and afraid to be blame.

well opinion ko lang nman din yun. and have nothing against. siguro minsan hinihingi lang rin ng panahon.

masturbate later huh?!/
 




At 7:35 PM, Blogger tin-tin said........
a lot of people are into it. they're just scared of commitment.. but actually, somehow they're being commited also.
 




At 11:53 AM, Blogger Lyka Bergen said........
i believe its better to be involved in a pseudo-relationship than to be alone and masturbate. Ching!Charing lang po.
 




At 12:48 PM, Blogger Bryan Anthony the First said........
lojik: are you saying there are no responsibilies involved in "pseudo-relationships"?

tanong lang po

hope u passed all ur exams this term...

woof!
 




At 12:49 PM, Blogger Bryan Anthony the First said........
tin: so, are we saying there's no difference between a "pseduo" and a real one...?

musta tin?

woof!
 




At 12:51 PM, Blogger Bryan Anthony the First said........
lyka: exage...dont get me wrong...self flagellation (pseudo sex?? ;-) ) as substitute for sex is extremely uncommon almost extinct at this age of mine...

thanks for the visit
 




At 4:28 PM, Blogger Kelly Carson said........
para sa akin, as long as it serves the needs of both parties, no one gets hurt, no one is discounted in the relationship, and if it is mutually agreed upon, I'd give pseudos a green light.

a bigger green on the masturbation.

pa watch. Ah? Hahahahahaha.
 




At 6:08 PM, Blogger Bryan Anthony the First said........
kelly: ay sure lols

thanks sa visit!

woof!
 




At 6:30 PM, Blogger The Nashman said........
Wanking causes blindness. Didn't those Belgian priests teach you anything?
 




At 11:06 PM, Anonymous Devilicious said........
those into pseudo-relationships?

people who are too coward and irresponsible. those who just wanted to enjoy the pleasures of it.. but never wanting to face the consequences that lies ahead.
 




At 9:37 AM, Blogger Bryan Anthony the First said........
nashman: noh! or was i absent then?
St. Louis Univ is still among the on top univs though...

:-)

thanks for the visit nash
 




At 9:39 AM, Blogger Bryan Anthony the First said........
dv: i beg to disagree, but wont comment further

thanks for the visit though

mwahs!!!!
 




At 11:17 AM, Blogger yey said........
well, one has to establish the most accepted definition of 'pseudo relationships' first before one rebutts.

it all boils down to getting it real. pseudo relationships are real because there are feelings attached to them. contrary to another post, there are consequences that would slap you hard weather you choose to face them or not. there are also responsibilities attached to presudo relationships,again, because of feelings.

millions of people bleed hard inside not to let others know, millions choose not to disclose anything because theyre simply comfortable being so. whatever it is, there's only one thing we can do: respect.
 




At 12:20 AM, Blogger adi said........
even electrons leave their orbits.
and not all bonds are ionic.

yes on the bleeding inside. yes on the respect.

i beleive it's real, though. just broke up with mine some few days ago.

i'm the secret. i'm the one who's oh-him?-we're-just-friends.

oh my. blood on the floor, now.
 




At 12:21 AM, Blogger adi said........
enough masturbatory delights!
 




At 9:02 AM, Blogger Bryan Anthony the First said........
bern...so many names huh!

orbit? ionic...intergalactic itu!

good one bern!

mwahs!
 




At 1:02 PM, Blogger xta said........
maybe it's the times. enough defining what's legit and what's not! just go ahead and enjoy whatever you two (or three haha) people have.

(oh, me? still too busy immersing myself highschool-scenario worries. define inexperienced. :D)
 




At 6:37 PM, Blogger your said........
phentermine nice :)
 




At 8:09 PM, Blogger ie said........
the thing is, the line between the real and the pseudo is too blurry to be defined, simply because "relationship" itself is too complicated to be defined.

yes, we build (or at least try to build) relationships with people, some of them valuable than others. but we change, other people change, and the connections between people change with it. with all this dynamism, how do start then, in terms of defining what is real and what is fake among all the bonds that tie us with other people?

the "socially-established" requirements are really nothing but guidelines. healthy communication does not always entail a healthy relationship, and the lack of the former does not always entail the reverse of the latter.

many, many things are blurry, and relationships definitely obey this rule. we are always in the process of defining what is and what is not for us.

hope i offered some help.
 




At 11:57 PM, Anonymous charles ravndal said........
Well for one thing i hate to be in that kind of situation. Why waste my time on it when I can have the real thing instead.
 




At 3:32 AM, Blogger yey said........
if you think about it, it's really a non-issue.
 




At 8:01 AM, Blogger Momel said........
You call it pseudo-relationships, I call it practice. It's a "choice of words" thing.

HAR! Cheers!
 




At 10:58 AM, Blogger Bryan Anthony the First said........
ie: you sure did, and much appreciated, but its not really for me...or is it?

*grin*

charles: ei, whats cookibng? musta na trip mo sa Paris?
 




At 10:59 AM, Blogger Bryan Anthony the First said........
mellie: a good term mellie...

maka-practice nga...
 




At 11:00 AM, Blogger Bryan Anthony the First said........
ei guys thanks for the visit!

mwahs!
 




At 7:49 PM, Blogger your said........
earn money - tramadol cool blog :)
 




At 10:28 PM, Blogger adi said........
i love ie.

and the good words. don't you?
 




At 11:20 PM, Blogger MrDJ said........
ang hirap mag-explain. pero nararamdaman ko din yang sinulat mo. madaming levels and ways to define a relationship. mahirap, magulo, yung nga, it's effing complicated. let's just masturbate and go to sleep... hehehe... LOL
 




At 12:39 AM, Blogger the Whore said........
holy cow!!

ewan ko, masyado pa akong bata para jan....
 




At 9:23 AM, Blogger Bryan Anthony the First said........
@adi: oo naman

@dj: ei, kailan na ulit yung beday mo??

yna: thanks for the visit!
 




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