Fake (revised [for no reason])
someone posted a rather well exemplified discussion on pseudo-relationships.
her “pseudo” thesis did solicit a lot of smirks and nods from me, not to mention 10 fingers itching for the keyboard for a smartass-ish commentary.
the writer tried to establish this school of thought: a pseudo-relationship is not a valid relationship. a pseudo-relationship is the substitute for the real thing.
in her lengthy enumeration, she pointed out that the absence of and/or a deviation from one of the many socially-established elements of a relationship invalidates one. she calls them pseudo-relationships.
like that of mary’s… been keeping the same boyfriend for years but is in-love (and sleeping) with someone else. there’s john… a husband and father of four but lives in a makati flat with his boyfriend. or that of rachelle’s… former miss melbourne last seen dating her first runner-up.
i have nothing against the innocuous zeitgeist of “pseudo” things. but indulge me to wonder: are pseudo-relationships fill-in for the supposedly real ones(are they unreal? fake?) even if we throw ourself in this “pseudos” with conscious choices?
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15 August 2006
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posted by Bryan Anthony the First at 8/15/2006
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29 Comments:
At 11:17 AM, 
yey said........
yey said........
well, one has to establish the most accepted definition of 'pseudo relationships' first before one rebutts.
it all boils down to getting it real. pseudo relationships are real because there are feelings attached to them. contrary to another post, there are consequences that would slap you hard weather you choose to face them or not. there are also responsibilities attached to presudo relationships,again, because of feelings.
millions of people bleed hard inside not to let others know, millions choose not to disclose anything because theyre simply comfortable being so. whatever it is, there's only one thing we can do: respect.
it all boils down to getting it real. pseudo relationships are real because there are feelings attached to them. contrary to another post, there are consequences that would slap you hard weather you choose to face them or not. there are also responsibilities attached to presudo relationships,again, because of feelings.
millions of people bleed hard inside not to let others know, millions choose not to disclose anything because theyre simply comfortable being so. whatever it is, there's only one thing we can do: respect.
At 8:09 PM, ie said........
ie said........
the thing is, the line between the real and the pseudo is too blurry to be defined, simply because "relationship" itself is too complicated to be defined.
yes, we build (or at least try to build) relationships with people, some of them valuable than others. but we change, other people change, and the connections between people change with it. with all this dynamism, how do start then, in terms of defining what is real and what is fake among all the bonds that tie us with other people?
the "socially-established" requirements are really nothing but guidelines. healthy communication does not always entail a healthy relationship, and the lack of the former does not always entail the reverse of the latter.
many, many things are blurry, and relationships definitely obey this rule. we are always in the process of defining what is and what is not for us.
hope i offered some help.
yes, we build (or at least try to build) relationships with people, some of them valuable than others. but we change, other people change, and the connections between people change with it. with all this dynamism, how do start then, in terms of defining what is real and what is fake among all the bonds that tie us with other people?
the "socially-established" requirements are really nothing but guidelines. healthy communication does not always entail a healthy relationship, and the lack of the former does not always entail the reverse of the latter.
many, many things are blurry, and relationships definitely obey this rule. we are always in the process of defining what is and what is not for us.
hope i offered some help.
they're looking for something that they feel is missing within them. but they don't wanna fix things up and just leave it as it is and stick to that situation since it's causing them just a little trouble. they are sometimes afraid with responsibility and afraid to be blame.
well opinion ko lang nman din yun. and have nothing against. siguro minsan hinihingi lang rin ng panahon.
masturbate later huh?!/